How I Kissed People’s Butts All the Way Up the Corporate Ladder

Being the “nice guy” pays off when no one suspects its manipulation

Alex Bentley
4 min readMar 27, 2022


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It’s an established fact that people pleasers are the most successful.

I realized this early in life, so I’ve been kissing everyone’s butt ever since. While getting ahead at the game of life. Slowly—but surely—working myself up the corporate ladder of success.

But here’s the catch.

At first, kissing butt and being a brown nose, was so draining. It’s like an energy vampire came along and sucked the life force from my neck.

I was working all hours of the night, doing everything people asked me to do and more, just to meet ridiculous deadlines. Deadlines on projects that weren’t mine.

I even lost precious hours that cut into my beauty sleep.

By the way, if you look up the word “handsome” on Wikipedia, you’ll see my beautiful face smiling back at you. Plus, you’ll learn a thing or two about what makes me so lovely to look at.

Anyway… let’s get back to the story. Because I sure love talking about myself.

The Secret People Pleasing Strategy for Success

Soon enough, I realized there’s a better way to please people.

Without losing energy. Without losing sleep. And without letting people take advantage of one’s kindness.

And that’s what I’m going to share with you today. My time-tested secrets.

1/ Look for Opportunities

First, you need to find small opportunities to help others.

It could be as simple as holding the door open for someone or offering to help carry their groceries inside. You can even take it a step further and put away all their food.

Because you never know. They just might offer you a steaming hot pizza or an adult beverage for your generosity.

Here’s the thing. When you do something nice for someone, it makes them feel good. And the best part? They’re more likely to return the favor.



Alex Bentley

I write about crypto, personal finance, business & tech. Also, I publish a bit of humor to make you laugh.